Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,
As we journey through the heart of summer, I’d like to take this opportunity to share a few friendly reminders—born not out of criticism, but of care. These are small ways we can grow together in reverence for God’s House and in love for one another.
Please dress in a manner befitting the sacred.
Mass is not just another event—it’s an encounter with God. Especially for those who serve in liturgical roles (Lectors, Altar Servers, Eucharistic Ministers, Sacristans, Ushers, and Musicians), attire should reflect the dignity of this moment.
- Men are encouraged to wear a dress shirt and pants with proper shoes—not sneakers. A jacket or tie, while not required, is a meaningful sign of reverence.
- Women are encouraged to wear modest and dignified attire, such as a blouse with a skirt or dress pants, ideally with a jacket or appropriate covering.
If you wouldn’t wear it to a formal event or a professional workplace, it may not be suitable for Mass—especially when serving in a visible role. Of course, we recognize that circumstances differ, but when we serve at the altar, we represent the Church, and our reverence should show both inwardly and outwardly.
Be attentive to hygiene and grooming.
This can be sensitive to mention, but it matters. Strong body odor, unwashed clothes, or overpowering cologne can unintentionally distract those nearby. Cleanliness, modesty, and moderation in fragrance are simple, thoughtful ways of showing care for our neighbors—and make worship more peaceful for all. If the person behind us is spending more time gasping than praying, something has gone awry!
Please refrain from eating, drinking, or chewing gum in church.
The only food meant to be consumed in this sacred space is the Body and Blood of Christ. While many of you have generously brought food or clothing for the poor in the past, we are no longer equipped to receive these items. I encourage you instead to contact St. Mary’s Church Clothing Drive at (718) 529–6070 or visit stmarysclothingdrive.com to schedule a free home pickup.
Let us preserve a spirit of holy silence.
The church is a place of prayer. Please refrain from unnecessary talking before and after Mass, especially during transitions between services. Warm greetings and fellowship are important—but best shared outside the sanctuary or in the vestibule so as not to disturb others who may be praying.
As your pastor, I am well aware that distractions can happen—late arrivals, restless children, a phone ringing, an off-key singer, or someone unintentionally blocking your pew. These things are part of life. But they can also be occasions of grace—opportunities to grow in patience, humility, and charity. And if you realize you may have been the cause of someone else’s distraction, don’t be discouraged. Just take it as a gentle nudge to improve next time—for God’s glory and the good of the community.
I remain truly grateful for the many ways you already show reverence and love in our parish. Together, let us continue to build a worshiping community that is prayerful, welcoming, and worthy of the Lord we come to encounter.
With every good wish and prayer, I remain
Devotedly yours in Christ,
Msgr. Cuong M. Pham